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Consent Policy


The following policy applies to all areas of The Woodshed premises and Woodshed events and is not limited to the dungeon space only.

  • Consent is only valid if it is voluntary and made without coercion and by individuals with the decision-making capacity, knowledge, understanding, and autonomy to give informed agreement.

  • Anyone can withdraw consent at any time and for any reason.

  • Each participant is responsible for giving informed and voluntary consent, and must be able to both give and understand a clearheaded “yes” or “no,” regardless of the label they use or how they identify.


We take reports seriously. Feel free to contact us anonymously through this link:

What do good consent practices look like?

  • No touching people or personal property without permission.

  • Treat everyone as an equal – no one is dominant or submissive toward another unless that relationship has been agreed upon by the individuals involved.

  • Using “Inclusive Negotiation Practices,” negotiate the scope of your scene prior to the activities, including but not limited to, types of play, marks, intimate contact (breasts, genitals, etc) and other areas of person for special or no attention. 

    • For example, hands around the throat may be a huge turn on for some but equally a huge trigger for others.

  • If you are unsure whether someone is able to give you open, honest, and informed consent, do not assume you have consent and do not continue.

  • It is a Woodshed Suggested Practice to not renegotiate for further activities during the scene. Headspace can easily alter a person’s frame of mind and inhibitions.

    • Want to go further than you negotiated? Save it for the next scene.  

    • It is always ok to remove things from the negotiated scene, but after the scene starts, we strongly suggest no new things be added to the negotiation.


  • Be ambiguous about what you’re asking someone to consent to.

  • Add additional things they did not consent to.

  • Interpret a halfhearted “okay” or “maybe,” silence, or anything other than enthusiastic affirmative consent as a “yes.”

  • Pressure someone into giving consent.

  • Assume any answer is Yes until the person has actively given that Yes.

Things to consider when asking for consent

  • If there isn’t room to say NO without fear of repercussion or if there is pressure to change a No to a Yes, then there isn’t consent.

  • Check your power! Power differentials exist due to status, position, privilege (societal structures), and/or experience level. Recognize the impact those can have on interactions, negotiation, agency, and consent, and intentionally, mindfully, and explicitly address that, and their impacts, in your negotiations.

  • If you are negotiating with someone that is inexperienced, you have an obligation to mindfully and intentionally lead them through negotiation and consent in a way that reflects their lack of experience, and to ensure they are informed and have a reasonable concept of their agency in the interaction, risks they are deciding about, and what it is they are consenting to. 

  • If someone doesn’t clearly communicate understanding, consent, and the activities involved, ASK clarifying questions. If they don’t seem sure about something, then you shouldn’t be sure you have consent for it.

What happens if things go wrong?

  • If you experience or witness a consent incident, you are encouraged to tell a DM or other staff member if you feel comfortable to do so. Please do not hesitate to seek someone out if you need support, assistance, or have concerns.

  • You are also welcome to speak with any member of our Consent Team: Suolinga, Nimuchi, Ms. Ru, Darcy, and Master Cecil.

  • Types of behaviors that may be cause for disciplinary action include, but are not limited to: consent violations, abusive behavior, harassment, asking again for play after being turned down, and inappropriate behavior where there may be no definitive rule being broken, but the behavior is still making others uncomfortable.

  • We take reports seriously. Feel free to contact us anonymously through this link.


Disclaimer: Every reasonable effort will be made to enforce this policy, but this organization makes no representations or guarantees about its ability to do so, and all participants/attendees retain full, sole responsibility for their safety and the safety of others with whom they interact.


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